Okay y’all this topic is a little different from what I usually like to write about and what I commonly write about, but this is something that is very important to me. Suicide, depression, anxiety, bullying, and anything similar/related that causes hurt or confusion…these things are problems in our world. These are things that people from all over and of all ages struggle with daily. It is something that affects even people you wouldn’t think would struggle with it. So actually a little backstory before I write this… Leigh, you’ve been gone for like two months where the heck have you been? Well, you see y’all school started, and I started at a new school (it’s going great btw) and well I had some writer’s block, and it was like BAD writers’ block until someone who I knew personally and saw at least two times a year died by suicide. It was heartbreaking, however, it was also very eye opening for me. Those things that I listed earlier, these are topics that are not talked about, these are the topics that our churches and schools don’t talk about enough, but they need to address more. These are things that teenagers struggle with and are terrified to tell anyone about because they feel like they are going to be judged, and for some people, they reach the breaking point and die by suicide, everyone around them is confused and upset because they wish they had known or understood. These are the topics that need to be talked about because these are real problems in our world. So this blog post is going to be divided into 3 parts, the struggling, the friends and family of the struggling, and all other people and what they can do. So let’s get started.
To the Struggling:
I know how you feel, most teenagers have been there, but believe me when I tell you that there is more. You are more. There are people who care, there are people here to listen, and you do not need to die or let your feelings overwhelm you. You are on this earth now, and God has put you on this earth for a specific reason, and He wants you alive. And sometimes you think the world wouldn’t change if you died or cut yourself out of others’ lives, you think maybe it would be better for everyone. Well it wouldn’t be. It would not be the same and you want to know why? It’s the fact that your best friend would sob for weeks everywhere that they go because they miss you and they wish they could have known and done something. It’s the way that your mom will stop every time that she walks past your room trying to mentally tell herself that you’re in there just doing your homework. It’s the way that your dad will cry because he just wishes that he had known and helped you and stopped you. It’s the way that your siblings will not want to do anything. Just think about the way that your family will stare at each other silently because they just don’t know how to say anything without crying. It will change things, it will change people’s lives because you do matter. If you are struggling please please call any of these numbers in this picture, please feel free to email me, please ask for help because you matter.
God is with you and He will give you strength to fight this, and I promise that you are going to get through this. I know this because you are worth more and you deserve to live and live abundantly! You are not defined by the size of your waist, the size of pants that you wear, you are not defined by whether your thighs touch or not, you are not defined by them. You are worth more than it all. You are worth more than the number of touchdowns that you get, or the baskets that you shoot, or the how many home-runs you hit, or how many goals you score, or how long you can run or the time it takes to do so. You are worth more than the color of your hair, the color of your eyes, the color of your skin, how tall you are, how skinny you are, how “perfect” you are. You are worth more than your average in that class. You are worth more than how many people like you, or how many friends you have to sit with at lunch. You are worth more than how loud or soft your voice is, or how outgoing or shy you are, or if you get in trouble or not. You are not defined by them. God tells you that He made you absolutely perfect and you are His. He wants you here and so do other people. Please, please know that people are here to help, please believe that God has bigger and better plans for you and I promise that if you cling to him and what His word, you will get through this. I promise you will. I’m praying for you and please feel free to contact me if you need to talk to anyone.
To the family and friends of the struggling:
Being a family member/friend of a someone struggling with these issues must be harder than I can imagine and I commend you for standing by them. You have to be willing to sit there and listen, talk, and pray with your family member or friend even when you don’t feel like you are making a difference. I encourage you constantly be in the word of God and constantly looking towards Him and advising your friend to do so as well. Be willing to hold this person while they cry, and talk some sense into them when they are just constantly beating themselves down. Remind them that they are enough, that there is more to who they are and their lives than how they feel in that moment, and constantly be praying for them. If you have had a family member or friend who has been overcome by such issues, then you are in my prayers as well as many other people’s. Your strength and unending love for this person is more encouraging than you would ever know. You are in my prayers, sweet friends. Continue to fight the good fight for your friend/family member. God is with you❤️
To every other person:
You play a role, you play a huge role in a struggling person’s life whether you realize it or not. Every action and every word that you say has a consequence that can be good or bad. And everyday you have the opportunity to impact someone’s life whether you realize it or not. How? You do this by using kindness, by choosing to say uplifting and godly things to everyone around you. You don’t know what anyone else is struggling with. As Christians, we are called to act and strive to be like Christ in each and every day and by doing that we have the power to change a person’s day, affect the way they see themself, and possibly even help (maybe, just maybe) save their life. You have more power then you know, so y’all use it help someone. You never know what is going on with that girl who you saw in the hallway and were rude to, or with that person who you talk trash about to their face or behind their back, or with that kid who gets made fun of and you know that it is wrong but don’t do anything to stop it. People could be struggling everywhere you go, and you may have had the chance to be a light but didn’t take it. Something my mom always tells me and I try to remember this in my daily life is that you may be the only Jesus someone else sees that day, so act like Him! Y’all, just a little kindness can get you so far. And I’m not talking only in person, social media plays a key role in bullying, anxiety, suicide and depression, yet we tend to not think while we are writing a comment or saying something on social media. We need to. That comment that you thought was funny could hurt someone very very badly. So y’all, please, please work your hardest be kind in everything you do and say because you don’t know what anyone is going through in their hearts. Something that I learned from watching “13 Reasons Why” (amazing show btw but talk with your parents about it) is that your kindness matters more than you realize. Could you imagine Hannah’s ending if there was a continued effort from students around her to help her or if they’d just been kind?!? Yeah, our impact could be huge. Y’all, I am so so so passionate about this, and all I want is to see issues related to bullying, meanness or anxiety stop. I want to see suicide rates go down majorly, maybe even stop. This is why I love Project Semicolon (and this is not sponsored by them AT ALL, I just really love what they do and stand for), and their motto is “your story isn’t over yet”. They work with people going through anything from anxiety, eating disorders, bipolar issues, suicidal thoughts, addictions, anything, to just remind them that there is more to their story. If you want to check them out here is the link: Project Semicolon and please, please just pray for them and what they do and mostly for the people who they counsel. The biggest way that you can make an impact is by praying, just simply pray that God will help all of these people and just overcome their lives with His Presence. And y’all just do whatever you can to be a light and to show people that, through Jesus, there’s more to the story.
So yeah, that’s kinda it for this blog post, I really hope that this helped y’all realize some things about our world. And please, if you are struggling with anything, please seek out help and know that you are so so loved. Love y’all so much and God Bless.